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The Bachelorette Week 2:

#1 with Brooks – first off I would like to just say that I don’t see the appeal. That goofy grin and those greasy locks of love do absolutely nothing for me. Des takes Fabio to a bridal store – because duhh what else would you do on a first date? – where she proceeds to tell Brooks that he needs to pick out a dress to try on. Am I the only one that thought the guy was a little too eager to throw on a gown?? Moving on… they leave the store ((still in full wedding attire… lame)) and go to the Hollywood sign ((hella corny)) and then go to a bridge that’s closed off. Ok Brooks, clearly you are a vageen with how much you were freaking out over removing the road closed signs, where’s your sense of adventure?!  They eat dinner under a chandelier <how does ABC think up this nonsense> on a bridge where Brooks cries about his parent’s divorce and Andy Grammar plays. Is it a qualification for all the guys/contestants on this show to have a sob story? It’s exhausting. Seriously, thanks goodness for dvr’s and the ability to fast forward.

#2 group date – Not sure what’s more pathetic… the fact that they made a rap video or the fact that Soulja Boy just ruined his street cred by appearing on this show. And how is it possible that not one of the guys on this joke of a show has any rhythm?! Obv this means that every single one of these guys is terrible in bed. It’s a fact guys, I didn’t make it up, don’t shoot the messenger. Anywho – these “guys” are worse than girls with their drama! Calling out a guy because he’s not here for the “right reasons” is succhhhh a girl move – macho mike!!Bachelorette rap

#3 date with the real Soulja Boy – ok ok if we are being honest with each other… I fast forwarded through this entire date because I think this guy is lame. So so lame and not worth my time.

Rose Ceremony – ughhh my gosh at the ridiculousness that goes on at this place! We get another sob story about diabetes this time (props for the change of tone), a girl fight, insults about parenting and tears. Brandon you were sooo good looking until you got on this show, now you are just creepyyyyyy. And I have a bone to pick with Des for kicking off the sign flipper with good cheekbones. I told her last week that he was a good one but whatevs just another fish thrown back into my sea… so thanks girl!! Actually, I take it back, you rock!

“We are infinite.”

After yet another wild and crazy weekend, I found myself on my couch, looking for a nice relaxing movie to end my Sunday with and decided on The Perks of Being a Wallflower. I don’t know if you ever read the book in high school ((I didn’t but I will be purchasing it for a summer read)) but it’s a story about this guy named Charlie who is entering his freshman year of high school and he writes about his struggles to an anonymous friend over the course of a year in letters. Charlie is trying to figure out what life is really all about it and talks about the not-so-typical [in my case/opinion] issues that teenagers face like drugs, alcohol, sex, homosexuality, rape and loneliness, etc. When I settled in to watch this movie, I wasn’t quite expecting the wave of feelings ((okkk, I cried… more than once)) that came with it. The movie really makes you think about life. All of life… the good, the bad, the ugly and the hope that it’s going to get better. High school, for a lot of people I believe, is a time where you discover new things about yourself and your friends and it’s the transition into a new ((slightly more)) mature life and this movie helps showcase that you’re not ever really alone in this time… and also the realization that there’s nothing we can’t come out of on the other side.

So while I was watching – being the nerd that you know that I am – I started writing down quotes (I really hope the book elaborates more on some of these lines) that made me pause and think and I want to share them with you guys! One line was repeated in the movie, so I know it’s in the book and I wrote down the first and the second dialogues with it in there so here we go:

First usage of the quote… just a little chatski that Charlie had with his favorite English teacher –

“Why do nice people choose the wrong people to date?” – Charlie

<<<HELLOOOOO I think that all the time>>>

“…we accept the love we think we deserve.” – English teacher who I think was named Mr. Anderson…

“Can we make them know that they deserve more?” – Charlie

“We can try.” – Mr. Anderson??

Second usage of the quote was between Charlie and his love interest Sam when she’s leaving to go to school –

                “Why do I, and everyone I love, pick people who treat us like we are nothing?” – Sam

                “We accept the love we think we deserve.” – Charlie

And then a little bit into the same scene with Sam and Charlie she says this:

“You can’t just sit there and put everybody’s lives ahead of yours and think that counts as love. You just can’t. You have to do things.”

I love that. We accept the love we think we deserve. I’ve done that before and if you have ever settled in a relationship, so have you. It’s that thought that we aren’t good enough or don’t deserve anything better so we hide from what we really want… or who we really want. I’ve done it! Hell, I even thought about doing it this weekend! But then I thought about it and ya know, it really doesn’t matter how good looking, successful, or attentive a guy is if they don’t treat you well or make you second guess yourself or in my case from this weekend, if they make you feel like a piece of meat. It’s pretty much impossible to build a relationship around someone who makes you feel any of those things. So why settle? The sooner we get ourselves into the mindset that we deserve everything we’ve ever wanted, the sooner we can accept it. At the end of the day, I think we can all learn a little something from the confused Charlie… sometimes I still feel like a confused teenager, if we’re being honest, so maybe we should all start facing life with a little more balls ((sorry for that crude way of putting it <I’m not really> but there really was no other way)) and make a little more effort to up the ante on the love that we truly want.

All in all it was a great movie <WATCH IT> and I’m really looking forward to reading the book – because everyone knows the book is always better! I’ll let you know if it really is… or maybe you should just check it out for yourself.

Also, I’m posting a picture of my group of wallflowers from this weekend and some wise words (stolen from another, of course) that our friend Chris says pretty much every time we get together:

“There are good ships and there are wood ships, ships that sail in the sea, but the best ships are FRIENDSHIPS and may they always be!”931448_10151506140329620_596793149_n