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Friendship.

Hello Hello HELLOOOO. Remember me? No? Yeah, I know… I’m sorry I’ve been mia as of late but these last few weeks have been absolutely packed!! But I’m making time for you now so please forgive me for neglecting my blog. This is going to be a little somber of a post but it’s been a bit rough lately. Dealing with guy drama is normal for me but when I have to deal with work, friendships, guys and family stuff at the same time – everything gets a little out of control and weird and depressing and scary all at once. It’s overwhelming. I’m overwhelmed.

They say bad news comes in threes… well when it comes to me, I believe that it comes in the tens. Stressing over money… or the lack of it, praying that I passed my teaching certification so that maybe I can get my life together and have a career, having one of your best friends pissed at you and then finding out your favorite aunt has cancer and doesn’t want to fight it and that your great-grandfather is on his last leg is a lot to handle. I think it would be a lot for anyone to handle… I don’t think it’s just me. It’s times like these where you put things into perspective. Trivial things like a fight with a friend about something that happened in the past doesn’t seem as important when you have things like death lingering around you but then again, not having that friend when you are dealing with these things brings it back around full circle where you need to take the time to fix it. I pride myself on my honesty… I think sometimes that maybe I am too honest but I think that my feelings are important. I will always believe that speaking your mind is the right thing to do, even if it hurts someone’s feelings. My friend and I currently have a difference of opinion but I think it’s important to talk about it. I think our friendship is important enough to talk it out. I suggested doing it over drinks because I’m a firm believer that the best convos happen over cocktails. There’s a little more openness and truthfulness with alcohol that make conversations a lot more real and if it leads to an argument… well, that’s ok! Because it’s ok to argue. We all know that the ones that drive you crazy are the ones that you love the most, so it’s ok to get mad and to voice how you feel but I also think it’s ok to be modest enough to apologize. Apologize and don’t ever hold a grudge… you never know when the last words you say to someone will be your last.

I believe it’s important to see both sides to an argument and to move on. I believe having solid friendships is healthy and listening will go a long way. I don’t believe in the silent treatment, but am guilty of doing it. I believe in love and I believe in bonds between the people you are closest with and that everything can be ok. I believe in happy endings.

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2 responses to “Friendship.

  1. I’m so sorry to hear about the tough times you are encountering. It’s not easy having to deal with so much at once and then piling losing a loved one on top of that just makes matters worse.

    I wholeheartedly agree with you about speaking honestly and openly about issues. I am often afraid of confrontation, but in the end, it is always better to face issues head on, talk it out, and move on.

    • Thanks for the support! I agree… I’m not the biggest fan of confrontation but it’s always best to get it out in the open than to keep everything bottled up!

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